February is all about L-O-V-E! For weeks leading up to the BIG day, February 14th, we are inundated with images of LOVE, from every store, the television, and radio. Commercials are displaying diamonds and flowers complete with a picture perfect couple, with a special kind of everlasting love. The hype and the expectation can lead up to sense of loss and dread if we somehow do not meet those standards of what love is. Pressure is placed on partners to make this day extra special, as if all other days don't seem to matter, as if we only express our deep, undying love, one day out of the year.
What about those that are single? February can be brutal, when bombarded with images of couples all the time. Comparisons between self and others can easily enter our thought process and bring on feelings of being unlovable or unworthy. Some worry they will never find someone who will simply love them. As February 14th approaches it can be a day filled with dread, sadness, and anxiety while some wonder, when will it be my turn?
Instead of having all these expectations of what others should do and how they should do it, Shouldn't YOU... Love Yourself More? Sounds easy, right? Wrong! Have you ever had the thought, "if he would just.... then I would feel loved," or "if they would just..... I would feel loved." What happened to loving ourselves first? When we love ourselves it makes it easier for others to love us. It makes us more giving, more aware, more available. It is so easy to say but how do you do it?
Is loving yourself simply setting aside time to take a long bath, read a book, watch that movie you have been dying to see, sitting and talking to a friend, or giving yourself one day without negative self-talk? It can be any of these things or anything important to you. Self love is at the core of your well-being, it is extremely important and impacts everything you do, you think, and how you act.